Without Rejection means that you can place boundaries without provoking defensiveness or being rejected for standing up for yourself.

Let me tell you a quick story on how I found the best way to place boundaries. 

A few years ago, I tried to reconnect with one of my ex. Neither of us were trying to get back together romantically. Our breakup had been painful, and we both knew we couldn’t be lovers anymore. Yet we tried to be friends.

She called me to share some issues she was going through. 40 minutes into the conversation she asked about how I was doing, and I shared a bit of my life and about the new woman I was dating – who eventually became my wife and the mother of my son. 

At some point she said, “Clearly, you’re using her, and you need to get out of this relationship.”

I felt confused and shocked.

“Wait” I replied. “I didn’t ask for advice on this. I don’t appreciate you psychoanalyzing me and giving me unsolicited advice. You called me for support, and now you’re in my head, telling me what I’m doing wrong and what I should do to make it right, according to you!” 

She replied defensively and we hung up. Shortly after I received this text:

“You’re acting as a child. In my world as adults, we are responsible for speaking the obvious. It’s not breaching any psychic boundaries.”

That exchange was a pivotal moment in my life. I made a series of important decisions.

1) Nobody tells me that they’re an adult and I’m a child.

2) My friends recognize my boundaries and respect them.

3) When someone creates a power difference (adult-child), they create a power struggle.

4) When I indulge that power difference, I’m just as responsible for creating and maintaining that power struggle.

5) Nobody tells me who I am, how I feel, what to think, or what to do.

Now I use a very efficient 7-step formula to place healthy and firm boundaries without provoking defensiveness or being rejected for standing up for yourself. And I’ve recorded a series of 10 videos to explain the complete process, so you can do it too.

Boundary setting is a learnable skill, and this is exactly what you’ll get when you register to this course:

When you register, you’ll get immediate access to 12 videos and you’ll learn:

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